I’ve learnt that I can’t be the best version of me without being truthful and honest with myself. It feels strange to say that out loud as I’ve always thought of myself as a very honest and open person. However, when I look at this more closely, I’m the one person I’ve always found it difficult to be honest with. As someone who has always wanted to please others, I put my own needs and my own truth to the background, allowed others to have theirs to the fore and never really chosen to do what I really wanted to, in case it was wrong, I failed or I wasn’t liked.
Without batting an eyelid, I would agree to almost anything if it just kept others happy with me. Consequently my life wasn’t my own- I just followed everyone else. Superficially everyone saw a happy, lively, entertaining ‘me’. The problem with this was that on the inside I felt removed and distant, would float off into my head, become completely ungrounded and cut myself off from me, and what I really wanted or needed.
Things couldn’t be more different now. Today I try wherever possible to ask myself what I really want. I don’t just choose the easy option or what the majority of those around me want. I’m not saying that I don’t compromise, but what I now have is more balance. I’ve learned that as I honour myself and be being truthful with what is right for me, I’m amazed at how good it feels! I’m not perfect at this yet, but I’m a work in progress and I’m happy with that.
Do you find it difficult to say “No” to others? Are your needs always the last thing you honour? Why not experiment and be honest and truthful with yourself, you could open up to a new magnificent you!
Need a little help being you? We have a great range of essences. Rebirth (was originally named You and helps you to become more ‘you’), Honesty can help support you to speak up and Fortitude help strengthen you throughout this process.